Reader Question: Approaching a Conversation About Addiction

From Our Readers: I'm worried about a loved one who seems to be struggling. What are some ways to approach the conversation about addiction without being judgmental or making them defensive?

Approaching a loved one who is struggling with addiction can be difficult. They might get defensive, refuse help, or be aggressive.

However, there are ways to approach them that can be beneficial for both of you: 

• Educate yourself about addiction and treatment
• Talk to them in a private, safe, and quiet place
• Don’t talk to them while they’re under the influence
• Don’t talk to them while they’re stressed
• Talk to them with genuine concern and sincerity
• Avoid accusatory language or blame
• Don’t interrupt or criticize them while they’re talking 
• Encourage seeking professional help
• Have a concrete plan for treatment and recovery

It’s important to remember that having a conversation with your loved one is just the first step. It might take several conversations and a lot of patience before they’re ready to listen to what you have to say and get help.

Lastly, if you need help talking to your loved one, consider contacting an interventionalist. They help you plan an intervention to increase the likelihood of your loved one getting help.